How to get out of your comfort zone?

How to get out of your comfort zone?


February, 2020




One word … courage.

You can access your inner wisdom to support you get out of your comfort zone when you have the courage to start the journey.   It doesn’t matter how small your actions are, small actions built upon, lead to big breakthroughs.

In astrology Leo’s symbology is the mighty lion which represents sovereignty, rulership and courage.  You can only be free when you adopt the attributes of the lion which are outside your comfort zone, they are parallel states of being.   When you stay small, obedient and powerless you can shrivel up and dry out.  This can manifest in many forms.  You may feel useless, worn out and lack self-esteem.   If you are being powered over by another the only way to gain sovereignty is to release yourself from its grip.


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Your values can become compromised when you give them up, trade them in for another’s love or worse still for the breadcrumbs of their affections they throw at you when it suits them.

How deep and for how long you allow yourself be in this state is often outside of your control.   You may find yourself thrust into the mythological underworld through illness or stress where the only way out is to peel away the layers of falseness until you are reborn.  This can be a painful process and you may feel striped bare of everything you once knew and cared about.  You can lose friends and allies who feel they no longer recognise you, and the truth is you may no longer recognise yourself.

“However, you can appear again in your full juiciness, reborn to your authentic self and gain true allies who support you.  You meet the ones who resonate with you and who may themselves have traveled a similar path.”

You have gone outside your comfort zone, triumphed and reclaimed your sovereignty.  You are free.  You are living life on your values, and you won’t allow anyone compromise them.

You have stepped into a place where magic happens and that’s the other side of your comfort zone.

If you find yourself standing on the edge coming from a compromised place know that you can begin to find a crack that will allow some light in.   Maybe this is an awareness that there is more for you if you have the courage to dig deep.

Until next time .. keep the faith,

Dolores Andrew-Gavin

Reiki in Galway

About Reiki in Galway

My name is Dolores Andrew-Gavin, Owner of Celtic Soul Essence.  I have been practising Reiki for the past 9 years.  I am based in Knocknacarra 7 minutes by car from Salthill on the West side of Galway City.

Medical Reiki

I am also a Certified Medical Reiki Master having trained in Glastsonbury with Raven Keyes, Founder Medical Reiki International 

If you would like to know more about Medical Reiki you can check out an interview I did with Raven Keyes as part of the Emotional and Mental Health Summit I ran in May 2019.

What is Reiki?

Reiki is a hands on healing therapy that supports us to manage our stress by lifting our mood thereby improving our confidence and self esteem.  Reiki helps us lift off old patterns by removing stagnant energy from our energy body.

Reiki is a key to health.

Why I practice Reiki

We live in such a busy world being more connected on line than we have ever been but, with many people feeling more disconnected than they ever have from others and most importantly from themselves.

I have found that my Reiki sessions offer a safe space for people to re-connect back with themselves and support them with their physical, emotional, mental and spiritual wellbeing.  Reiki does this by shifting blockages of energy that can build up in a person’s energy body.   And it is important to note that any of us can have energy blocks and that can be caused by several reasons;

  • Feeling anxious about our life.
  • Holding onto fear, sadness or any other emotion that holds us stuck in a past event.   We don’t have to remember what the original block was or why we held onto it, we just want to hold the intention to let it go.  We develop beliefs around ourselves when we are young and these beliefs are tied up with emotions e.g. we may have been ridiculed for standing up in class and vowed to never again feel the shame we felt.   So we hold onto this story and the shame in our energy body until we let it go.   Energy work like Reiki support us in releasing these past stories and the energy and emotions around them.
  • Feeling stressed about our life whether that be a relationship, family issue or work matter.
  • We may have a physical injury and worry about how we will cope.
  • We may be undergoing treatment for a medical issue and hold onto fear around the outcome for us.

No matter what our life situation is Reiki can support our health and wellbeing.

What happens during a Reiki session?

During a Reiki session I work with the chakras of a person’s body to see where a client most needs to release stress from their body.

During a session energy flows where it is needed anyway.    For example a symptom of a headache may direct me to where the source of the headache is coming from e.g. if a person is holding a lot of stress in a certain part of their body it may manifest as a headache.


Exercise to Work with Energy?

If you are a complete novice to energy work here is a simple exercise to allow you experience energy for yourself.

1.                 Raise your hands in front of your face with your palms facing each other and about a foot apart.

2.                 Slowly push the palms towards each other until they are about 6 inches apart, then bring the palms back to their original position.

3.                 Repeat this several times until you can feel the build up of energy between your palms.  When you are trying to bring your palms together you should feel some sort of resistance from the energy between your hands.

See you are an energist after all!

You can be a complete novice with energy work to start on a path of Reiki and you may just have a desire to improve your life in all areas.  It is with practice that we get more in tune with both ourselves and our clients.  We learn to trust ourselves and to work more intuitively, again intuition is something we all have and need to just trust and believe this.   It is also good to know if you are a complete beginner that there is nothing you can do wrong in a Reiki session so long as your intention is pure and for the highest good of the client!


How to Book a Reiki Session with me

A Reiki session will typically last around 50 minutes, please leave an hour for the duration of the complete session.  I am based in Knocknacarra, Salthill, Galway.

If you want to check availability or have any questions please do get in touch via the contact form below.

Namaste Dolores

Master The Skill Of What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger To Be Successful

What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger


JUNE, 2018

Celtic Soul Essence

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.   In my opinion saying this to someone who is going through hell and back with a situation is like showing a red rag to a bull, it just doesn’t help.   There are times when we need to consider not throwing around such popular sentiments.  We would be better off to hold our tongue and be a space for someone to just be.

At times we can feel like we are literally being killed in a situation we are going through and in one way we are going through a sort of death.   This may be symbolic in its nature for example we may feel like we are shedding an old skin, an old way of being.   Perhaps we have stood up to an abuser and said “NO, enough is enough”.  This act represents the death of an old way of being, a standing in our power and embracing our free will and sovereignty.

Of course, going back to the sentiment of what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, this killing of an old pattern or a shedding of a skin does make us stronger and we can look back with pride that we have gone through and made a change in ourselves for the better.

The way in which we shed old skins or patterns can be different for everyone depending on what story is unfolding for us.

It might even be so subtle that we don’t notice or it may feel so overwhelming that we feel we will never rise again.

Here are some things to think about if you feel like you are going through a crisis in your life.

Is the change necessary for your personal growth?   Again, if you are in the depths of a crisis you may not have a definite answer to this question.  How will your life change?  Will you have to develop courage and strength to walk alone in life?  If so what feelings does this bring up for you?

If you are further along your journey you may be able to look and see the good that came from a situation which seemed life crushing at the time.  Maybe you came away from a marriage in which you were a co-dependant and realise now that you are stronger than you thought, you are managing fine on your own because you have developed an inner strength you didn’t even know was there.

Maybe you met another partner and you find you are an equal in this relationship not a co-dependant waiting for the crumbs of life to be given to you or avoiding situations that you knew would bring the other’s wrath upon you.

“When we have found courage we have suffered pain, when we feel illuminated we have known the darkness”

This is the healing in the crisis situations that are sometimes thrown at us along our journey.

We develop a strength beyond all our imagination, we embrace courage because for some we had to grasp onto something in order to keep afloat.

Maybe you got over a fear you didn’t even know was keeping you stuck.

The journey to where you are now or the journey you may still be on, may seem unfair, unjust, unpleasant and unnecessary but curve balls are our life lessons.    They not only make us stronger they also help us help others who are going through similar situations should we feel inclined to tell our story.    Its hard to have true empathy if you have never known hardship just like its hard to describe a food you have never tried.  We can of course imagine what it would be like to try the food we can use all our senses and conjure up a story.

We may not have voluntarily opened the door to allow the suffering in, but we can certainly close it behind us when we can stand and look back at how far we have come in our personal journey.   We may have dreams that remind us what life used to look like, maybe there is still a bit of us stuck back there in the past story, but we know we can change that too.   Our dreams will often give us these vital clues.  Recently I had a dream about packing up my clothes.  Some of my clothes were in my old bedroom from childhood and some of the clothes I picked up I felt I had never seen before.   I was surprised to find a light coloured new outfit that I was going to wear on my last night of holidays.    It reminded me of a new way of being, a lighter way, not suffocating the real me under layers and layers of un-necessary and dark clothes.

Once I see the hidden gem in this I can make the decision to shed any ways of showing up in the world (symbolically shown as clothes in my dream) and decide to adopt a lighter approach that shows me for who I am to the world.

I have a weekly Women’s empowerment podcast and if you would like to subscribe on Soundcloud if you want to keep updated, you can do so here.

Until next time keep empowered.

Dolores Andrew-Gavin, Soul Care Therapist, Empowerment and Assertive Coach, Energy Therapist, Author and Mum.



5 Easy Ways to Train your Mind to Be Authentic

5 Easy Ways to Train your Mind to Be Authentic

How to be authentically you?


May, 2018

Celtic Soul Essence

What does being authentic feel like to you?  And yes, I did say feel like, because being authentic feels different to everyone.

Being authentic means a whole plethora of things to different people.   It can mean to live in accordance with what makes you feel good, what makes you tic or what brings you joy and happiness.

So at the start of your journey of being authentic you need to find out what being authentic actually means to you.

Empowerment too, is a word that can come into play alongside the word authentic.    We can say we are empowered when we are living authentically.

But again taking the word empowerment and defining it and asking yourself “What does this mean to YOU as opposed to perhaps googling it and coming up with a universally accepted definition that you feel you need to fit into”.

Empowerment like authentic can mean so many different things to different people, it depends on where you are in your life.

For some it can be a deep desire to finally stand up for themselves.

For others it may be a desire to be free and for more a desire to just be.

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What story we tell ourselves around empowerment is important to our success in achieving what we want to achieve.   Sometimes what we desire is not possible for us at this exact moment of our life but maybe it can be possible in the future.   This doesn’t mean we cannot desire it and draw it to us but this may be the time to just allow acceptance of where we are right now.   But know that accepting a situation for the way it is, is in fact empowering.   It is a step in the right direction.

The best gauge for being authentic is by following your heart.   I did a survey recently asking people what they thought empowerment meant and a lot of the answers came back with the definition of “being free to be me”.

If then being “free to be me” is something you feel is authentic and would bring you empowerment why oh why do we constantly sabotage ourselves from being authentic and empowered beings?

Too often we don’t use our internal gauge correctly, we may listen to it alright but then when someone says something to us about, lets say a decision we make that feels on track and authentic to ourselves, we question this decision and perhaps don’t follow through with it.

Is this living in a way that is being free to be me?

It’s hard at first to break that cycle of allowing another’s judgments define us, if this is the way we have lived our lives to date.  BUT it is not impossible to change.   We can work with our mind just like we can work our muscles.   We can train our mind differently … what a fascinating discovery that is!!

“Training our mind differently or training ourselves to just be without allowing others define us is very doable!”

Here are my five top tips for doing this.

  1. Remember a time in your life when you did something that made you feel good only to feel deflated when your partner or your parent or someone else made a comment and you really took that comment on board. How did you feel?
  2. Really dissect the way it made you feel. Were you angry, sad, frustrated or did you go back to feeling helpless, useless or feeling like a victim?   In other words an old pattern that your mind is used to.
  3. Realise that this thought made you take an action, our thoughts fuel our actions. Imagine if you could find a trigger that would not automatically make you go into auto pilot and take the usual action that you normally take?
  4. Which brings us to the “personal power point” as I call it. What was it that got triggered and what is it that triggers you time and time again when you feel a particular way?   Knowing this personal power point is the gem of wisdom from which you can turn around and teach your mind something different.
  5. Remember your thought is in your head, your feelings are in your body. Sometimes we need to let the head not be so involved and allow our feelings be in control.

Look at how similar our body reacts in these two situations.

  • Think of when you are in danger of something. You have a thought that you are going to be attacked by a big dog, your body reacts to this thought by producing all sorts of feelings and adrenaline.    Your heart might start to race and your palms may get sweaty.
  • On the other hand if something fantastic happens to you and you get a rush of excitement similar things can happen in the body. Maybe you have been nominated for an award and your name is called out.    Your body reacts with an adrenaline rush, sweaty hands at the thought of going up to receive your prize and your heart might be racing.

We can train our mind to take different actions.

So to recap find your personal power point and from there we can learn the triggers that need to be changed in order to train our mind to take different actions.

More on that in the next episode

Until then keep empowered …. Dolores Andrew-Gavin, Founder IrishHealthHour, Author, Empowerment and Assertive Coach and Energy Therapist.

Are Your Emotions Smothering You? How to Make Your Life Better.

Are Your Emotions Smothering You? How to Make Your Life Better.

Are your emotions smothering you?  Are they making you feel scattered and all over the place or are you stuck in the mud and can’t see a way out?

It’s only when you learn to turn the lens within and face your emotions that you can begin the wonderful process of transformation.

“Looking to others to fix you, won’t work.   Your story is not their story and it’s not their job”.

They may even have an unconscious motive to keep you where you are, it might suit them better!

There will of course be ruffled feathers and disgruntled onlookers who fear the change may affect them, but what’s your choice?  Stay locked up in the dungeons or break free and let your light shine?  And that is where you can decide who to ask for help.

Looking at your emotional landscape

When you discover the emotional landscape of an old story one that is smothering you or clinging to you like a fly on fly paper, it can reveal a multitude if you allow it.   Learning to understand why your story is not being validated or, more correctly why you feel like someone is not listening to you.  Ask yourself what are you feeling emotionally when this happens?

Do you need to look at the story from a higher perspective?   Maybe you are being too rigid with someone or even yourself; maybe you need to drop that old story as it no longer stands up to your own scrutiny.  Maybe you need to ask for outside help?

Letting go old stories lightens your load and is empowering!    You may wonder why you held on so tightly to it for so long.

You are not accountable to anyone for doing this .. just yourself.

When you turn the lens within instead of outwards you illuminate your own way.  You are not accountable to anyone for doing this; just yourself.   Some of your beliefs may be society’s beliefs; ones that don’t necessarily fit with you anyway!

Be clear about what beliefs are actually yours and what beliefs you wear like badly fitting hand me downs.   What do you just do to fit in and belong?   You will never have a feeling of belonging to anyone or anything if you are not living an authentic experience.

Being authentic is like a perfectly fitting glove, it just is.

Be compassionate with Yourself!

Having compassion with yourself while you shine your light within is essential.   There is no need to give yourself a hard time for something you did in the past, you can’t change what you did but you can change the way you feel about it.   You may need to just accept it, even if it makes your palms sweat thinking about it.   Holding onto shame or guilt doesn’t serve you and just keeps you energetically tied to the old story.

Working with an Old Story

You can make that old story you cling so tightly to an ally or a friend.   You can see it as a learning curve.

What did you learn from the old story?   Maybe that you are not perfect?   Excellent!   Maybe you can realise that you had raised the perfectionism bar too high anyway, maybe you did what you did as you thought you had no other choice; maybe you did what you did to survive.   Maybe you need to forgive yourself or another or maybe you need to say sorry to someone.

You can shed light on your story; illuminate the facts, learn acceptance and begin to allow the healing of letting the old story go, while all the time being authentic, having compassion and realising you belong no matter what.

Until next time .. keep the faith,

Dolores Andrew-Gavin, AuthorSoul Care Practitioner and EFT Master Practitioner



3 Ways to Practice Self Love based on Simple Mindful Practices

3 Ways to Practice Self Love based on Simple Mindful Practices

“The moment you realise your thoughts are intruding and you stop them … that’s mindfulness”

If you have deep-rooted beliefs about yourself, for example if you feel you are not lovable or, if society or others have made you feel this way, then it can be a journey of discovery to find your truth around self love.

When you accept that love is not a destination to be reached but literally a way to walk in life, self-love practices can be integrated into your daily lilve.

Here are three simple ways to begin this journey using mindful practices.

*            Decrease violence in yourself.

Violence towards the self manifests in many, many ways. Perhaps you use violent self-talk towards yourself; telling yourself that you are not good enough or maybe you blame yourself for the actions of others.

When you start to unravel your stories around violent self-talk you will feel an immediate shift in your life.  We are, each one of us, entitled to receive love. Although you may have been hurt many times in the past this does not mean you are not entitled to be loved.   Maybe the people you have fallen in love with are not capable of giving you love or, of giving you the love you need.   Maybe their beliefs about themselves hold them back from truly giving.

You can accept this fact and forgive yourself for loving someone who was not capable of giving you the love you needed.

Develop the practice of deep listening.

When you listen to what your body needs and what your emotions are telling you, you can begin to align yourself with a positive mindset of self-love.

If for example your default emotion is anger, then maybe your anger is trying to tell you that you need to build stronger boundaries. Maybe your sadness is telling you that you need to listen to your gut instinct and let someone or something go.   Maybe your back pain or pelvic problems are telling you, you don’t have enough support in your life and that you need to surround yourself more with supportive people.

When you hone in and really listen you will begin to realise that self-love starts with listening to yourself and not to others.

Avoid using toxins and poisons.

When you use toxic substances in excess in order to fill gaps in your heart you are not respecting yourself.   It is an act of self-love to realise that toxins and poisons won’t mend a broken heart.   If you stop and find the reason why you carry wounds in your heart you can begin to take steps to mend it.   As you embark on this journey you realise your emotional state is an inside job and that you hold the power inside you all the time.

Mindfulness brings you into the present moment where you can consciously look at and listen to what your body really needs.   When you listen to these signals and messages from your body and act on them, you will begin the journey of walking a life based on self-love that will seep out into all areas of your live and have a ripple affect on the way others treat you.

I share lots of inspiring content over at my Women’s Empowerment Podcast, you can find it on Soundcloud.   AND you get my FREE eBook on finding your authentic voice by subscribing on the home page.

Until next time; keep the faith Dolores Andrew-Gavin, Owner of IrishHealthHour, PodcasterSoul Care PractitionerAuthor