3 Biggest Fears That Hold You Back and How to Work With Them
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Fear can stop you following your desire, it can strangle your dreams and leave you stuck behind the bars of your ego prison.
However when you begin to dissect fear, you realise its just an emotion, e-motion, it’s energy in motion and energy can be moved. Of all the emotions fear is instinctual and can rise up when your very survival is threatened.
Fear can be inherited and when you look at your stories you may realise you are sabotaging yourself by holding onto someone else’s fear!
Fears Can Form When We are Young
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“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself”.
1 Fear You Won’t Be Heard
Everyone has the right to be heard.
It’s good to remember that you are one or two steps ahead of someone else in your journey in your life and, at the same time there are others who are one or two steps ahead of you.
AND you don’t have to tell your story to everyone. You can decide to tell your story only to those who have earned the right to hear it. That’s why surrounding yourself with supportive people is so important. We can learn from each other, we can support each other and most of all we can offer a space for each other to be heard. It doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything you hear it just means you allow space for someone to be heard.
2 Fear of Falling Flat on Your Face
It is out of our biggest failures that some of our best results arise. But if you suffer from a strangling fear of falling flat on your face finding out where this is coming from is a start. What old story is telling you, you will fall? Are you trying to live up to someone else’s standards?
Ask yourself what’s the best that could happen? Maybe you will realise that this fear is not founded on anything solid. If fear is built on an unstable foundation once you tune into it, it will crumble.
3 Fear of criticism
What is it about criticism that frightens you so much? Have you such a tight hold on your own beliefs that you have become closed minded?
Sometimes criticism, so long as it is constructive criticism can help you glean golden nuggets of information that can help you break through your own inner glass ceiling of what you can do. Could you allow yourself use constructive criticism as a catalyst for change for the better?
The first step is always the hardest … but the gain is always worth it.
Setting Solid Intentions for Real Results
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Solid intentions yield real results, that there is no denying! A solid foundation will not crumble under the first hurdle, it will sustain and nurture you and hold you upright with what you want to achieve.
So what are your solid foundations build from? Well luckily it is not rocket science and we can all build them. They are built from intentions created from the core of who you are, standing authentically in the world.
When you don’t follow the crowd when you are less distracted by what everybody else is doing and when you become clear what it is you want to do you will get real results.
If you feel you are at a crossroads right now, stop and ask yourself “What is it I actually WANT to do right now?” Make sure that the inner critic is switched off, give her a rest for a while and become clear that your intentions are coming from a place of desire and not need. A need is never satisfied, it feeds on more. A desire is different it brings real results.
Go deep, ask the questions that matter to YOU.
- What makes YOU tick.
- What dreams got squashed because you were told you couldn’t or shouldn’t.
- What desire have you deep in your heart?
- What gives you a real sense of belonging?
“You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be.” Wayne Dyer
The most important question, in my opinion, to write down and answer is
- What is non-negotiable for me?
It doesn’t matter what is written down, what is it from now on you will not sell your soul for? What do you need in order to make that solid intention?
Become clear about your intentions and make them so solid they have no choice but to blossom!!!
You will produce real results when you come from this very solid place. Your thoughts become in alignment with your intentions and thereby so to will your actions. It becomes automatic behaviour and you will be amazed at the real results you will see in a short amount of time.
WHY .. you have taken back control of your life .. your way.
Until next time … keep the faith,
“The life and passion of a person leaves an imprint on the ether of a place. Love does not remain within the heart, it flows out to build secret tabernacles in a landscape.” John O’Donohue
Your passion is infectious and as John O’Donohue states it flows out onto the landscape around you.
But what if your passion has become dulled or you feel that the realities of life have knocked it out of you? What then is seeping out from you to create your outer reality? Sadness for dreams not pursued? Anger towards another? Fear of never moving from where you are now to where you long to be?
Try this powerful 7 step guide to igniting your inner passion.
1. NAME IT You know that voice that talks all day long inside your head, the critical one, well you are going to give her a name! What would you call her or him for that matter? Grumpy? Sulky? Moody? Now you are going to ask her to go on a little vacation, not forever, reassure her it’s just a little break. She will probably react in the usual way and give some back cheek but just smile at her, hand her a suitcase and perch her off somewhere you can’t hear her, on the edge of your shoulder even! Now take 5 minutes and just be without her, if she allows you more, go for it!
2. DREAM IT Remember back to sometime in your life when you had a dream, it doesn’t matter what it was about, it can be any dream, maybe you wanted to fly off a hill, maybe you wanted to win first prize in a raffle, maybe you imagined yourself with the love of your life, whatever! Relive this time now relishing the way that dream made you feel. Notice how there were no restrictions in your thinking, no negative vibes from anywhere, you just dreamt about what you wanted.
3. FEEL IT Notice how you feel in this moment. Does thinking about it make you giddy with excitement? Does it make you feel unstoppable or even capable? Nurture these feelings and relive them here in the now.
4. HARNESS IT You can harness this potential you HAVE inside you, the one you just recreated anytime you want. The only person that is stopping you from doing this is … Mrs. Grumpy, Mrs. Sulky or Mrs. Moody or whatever her name is. And you know yourself she is just a small part of you, so why hand her over the controls?
5. PICK ME UP It can sometimes take time to re-harness this energy but you can liken it to taking something that makes you feel good. Allow it be your pick up juice when things feel hard, remembering all the while that your dreams are there inside you.
6. FUEL IT Little by little those dreams will emerge if you allow them, fuel them with good feelings and harness their power.
7. EMBRACE IT The best step of all is when you nudge Mrs. Grumpy, Mrs. Sulky or Mrs. Moody from the driver’s seat and hand the reigns over to the passion that is driving you forward every day of your life. Allow your passions be infections and spill out everywhere you go, leaving a trail of light to illuminate another’s dream.
You can do it, take back control and begin to live your life .. your way.
Happy Full Moon in Gemini
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We know that the Moon’s gravitational force affects the rise and fall of the oceans and because the average human is made up of almost 70% water this explains why the Moon has such an effect on us. We feel the pull on our watery emotional realm and this is most especially true for women whose psyche is governed by the Moon as opposed to men who are more associated with the Sun!
The Moon fluctuates more than the Sun, changing astrological signs every two and half days as opposed to the Sun which changes sign once a month.
This month’s Super Full Moon falls in the sign of Gemini which is normally a sign of logic and rationality. Because of Neptune’s position at this time, it dilutes this logical and rationality somewhat and brings our creativity and sensitivity more to the forefront. So this Super Full Moon is a good time to get creative. Maybe you want to draw or paint or to create something new.
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Mercury is also going retrograde on the 3rd until the 23rd of December. This encourages us to look at our values around a certain area in our life. We can look at where it is falling in our chart to know what it is encouraging us to look at.
This Super Full Moon is giving us an opportunity to look back at our life and to see the wisdom from our past stories whether we perceive these stories as good or bad! When we take the emotional charge from them, we start to see the patterns that have been unfolding for us. We then have an opportunity to glean the wisdom from our past stories.
If you shoot for the stars and hit the moon, it’s OK. But you’ve got to shoot for something. A lot of people don’t even shoot.
When we begin to work with the lunar energies we start to have a better understanding of how we can co-create our lives in an authentic way. We begin to understand why certain stories come up for us at certain times and why we are more emotional at some times of the month.
We are aware what is happening around us energetically and so can decide not to be reactive to it. We can see the signs and make our own choices.
Having the Courage to Change
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Many of us want to change but don’t know how to do this within the confines of our life. It takes courage to change. You might worry about what your partner/husband/family will say or what your partner/husband/family will think?
However, as long as you are doing something for the benefit of what another will think of you, you are giving your power away. You choose to stay doing something that doesn’t feel right, to keep the peace or to stay small. Who is this honouring?
It takes courage to challenge the status quo, to understand why you do or don’t do what you do.
You may stay wandering around what seems to be barren land, emotionless, powerless and not having your needs met. Or, you may feel like you are drowning in a river of emotions that seem at times to take you over. You may feel lost to your core or blindfolded by those around you.
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“When we realise that we can change, we have the choice to embrace that change”
Facing Your Fears
Sooner or later the choice to face your life story and to own it, will stand tall in front of you and, may even appear to challenge you. Maybe you find yourself at a crossroad with something or someone in your life. Your feelings and gut want to go one way but the “staying as you are” to suit everyone else beckons you the other way.
What choice you make is yours. You may want to put a toe out and test the waters of change. Maybe it’s as simple as having someone mind your children while you take a walk. Or, taking an hour out every morning to do a gym routine or take a dance class. Are you a bad person to do this? Of course not but that inner critic may tell you, you are. But remember that the inner critic was most likely told a story that you were not enough, not entitled to something, would never find love .. or whatever. It is merely a story that is part of you, generally a fear of stepping out of line and, can be changed.
Fear is instinctual but not all fear is relevant.
What’s the best that can happen? You can feel refreshed and calm with an inner feeling of gratitude and even power that you looked after yourself. Remember you are worth it!
If you decide to stay the same and stay doing what you do, at the very least own that you are doing this. Maybe you can own the story and realise that in the future you can make a different choice. When you own where you are, really own it, it brings a certain amount of clarity and acknowledgment to your true feelings.
Life is changing and more women are realising that to honour yourself is not a crime, in fact, it’s essential for our emotional and mental health.
When you honour yourself you are having a ripple effect on society, on your children, on your nieces and nephews but most importantly on you.
What one small step can you take today to honour your dreams?