Embracing Our Vulnerabilities is Empowering .. But not always easy

Let’s face it Vulnerability gets a bad rap!  

Why? 

Many of us live our lives in fear of being seen for who we really are. 

We have been conditioned to feel not good enough or worthy enough or … whatever enough.

And so, we spend a lot of time trying to fit in.  Whether it’s in a work situation, with our friends, or even with our family.  

“Fitting In” indicates changing ourselves.  

Perhaps we are trying to make someone like us.   In that quest we change.   
We sabotage ourselves and our truth.  

There is nothing authentic about fitting in.

To live authentically requires us to embrace ourselves fully and to be brave enough to look at the conditions we have taken on.   We allow ourselves to be vulnerable enough to do this and embrace what we find!

If we question why we bother to compare ourselves with others we realise it’s futile.  Because we are all unique with our own life experiences, and lessons that have shaped us.  

Taking the time to do the work and find the treasure in our vulnerability will lead to us a place of belonging.

Belonging, like vulnerability, is an inside job, with no conditions attached.    
There is no push and pull, it’s a safe, peaceful destination.   

Embracing Courage to Be Vulnerable   

It requires courage to make changes. 
When we allow ourselves journey to that vulnerable place within, we find the stories that create our reality.

Here’s an example.

What if we find we cannot stand up in public and speak at events?

Maybe we were laughed at when we stood up in first grade at school and vowed to never again go through that humiliation.  To this day, we avoid public speaking.   

Let's look at the vulnerability of this first grader and speak to the "old wound" or "old story".  

What does this first grader need? 

What if he can look at his vulnerability and find the courage to change this story?   He may perhaps stand in his power and learn how to create boundaries.   Or work with triggers that prevent him from standing up and speaking his truth. 

He courageously works with the first-grader part of himself and in so doing puts himself back in the driver's seat of his life.   

He has changed the trajectory of his life.  

He has leaned into his vulnerability and learned to let go of what other people think he should be and instead, embraced who is really is.

In conclusion

Embracing our vulnerabilities is empowering, but not always easy. 

We may need to learn skills to help us navigate this tricky terrain when our head screams no but our heart and soul ache for a yes.  

We learn to give the ego some time off as we sift through the pearls of wisdom and allow ourselves to grow and thrive.

We build boundaries, ground out emotions and stand tall in our authentic selves where we will find peace, joy, and tranquillity.  

The first step is always the hardest, but the end journey is worth the work.

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