“The moment you realise your thoughts are intruding and you stop them … that’s mindfulness”
If you have deep-rooted beliefs about yourself, for example if you feel you are not lovable or, if society or others have made you feel this way, then it can be a journey of discovery to find your truth around self love.
When you accept that love is not a destination to be reached but literally a way to walk in life, self-love practices can be integrated into your daily lilve.
Here are three simple ways to begin this journey using mindful practices.
* Decrease violence in yourself.
Violence towards the self manifests in many, many ways. Perhaps you use violent self-talk towards yourself; telling yourself that you are not good enough or maybe you blame yourself for the actions of others.
When you start to unravel your stories around violent self-talk you will feel an immediate shift in your life. We are, each one of us, entitled to receive love. Although you may have been hurt many times in the past this does not mean you are not entitled to be loved. Maybe the people you have fallen in love with are not capable of giving you love or, of giving you the love you need. Maybe their beliefs about themselves hold them back from truly giving.
You can accept this fact and forgive yourself for loving someone who was not capable of giving you the love you needed.
* Develop the practice of deep listening.
When you listen to what your body needs and what your emotions are telling you, you can begin to align yourself with a positive mindset of self-love.
If for example your default emotion is anger, then maybe your anger is trying to tell you that you need to build stronger boundaries. Maybe your sadness is telling you that you need to listen to your gut instinct and let someone or something go. Maybe your back pain or pelvic problems are telling you, you don’t have enough support in your life and that you need to surround yourself more with supportive people.
When you hone in and really listen you will begin to realise that self-love starts with listening to yourself and not to others.
* Avoid using toxins and poisons.
When you use toxic substances in excess in order to fill gaps in your heart you are not respecting yourself. It is an act of self-love to realise that toxins and poisons won’t mend a broken heart. If you stop and find the reason why you carry wounds in your heart you can begin to take steps to mend it. As you embark on this journey you realise your emotional state is an inside job and that you hold the power inside you all the time.
Mindfulness brings you into the present moment where you can consciously look at and listen to what your body really needs. When you listen to these signals and messages from your body and act on them, you will begin the journey of walking a life based on self-love that will seep out into all areas of your live and have a ripple affect on the way others treat you.
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